Speaker 0 00:00:00 Good morning, Fort McMurray, wood, Buffalo, and the rest of the world. You've tuned into the Mac city morning show. I am your host Elliot Pierre, and we're going to start the show off the same way we start every show off with a moment of gratitude. I know you could be doing so many other things with your time. So the fact that you're spending with us truly does mean the world to me on that note, Kenneth hit him with you.
Speaker 1 00:00:21 Oh, she caught me loves you're listening to the next anymore.
Speaker 0 00:00:30 All right. Okay. We got a fun one today. Cause we're, we're talking about topics today. We've never done that before, so it's still going to be a loose show, but like we actually have some form of topics that our guests has come in with that. Uh, we're going to kind of spitball off those. So it's going to be a good one. It's going to be an interesting one. Now, as you know, I don't introduce my guests because they can do a better job at that than myself. So on that note, can you please introduce yourself to the people at home?
Speaker 2 00:00:54 Sure. So my name's Sherry MacCachren. I am a success coach and the owner of
Speaker 0 00:00:58 Joyful roots coaching. Here we go. And
Speaker 2 00:01:01 In my coaching practice, I help people get really crystal clear on what it is that they want in their life to bring them more joy and happiness. And then together we work on sort of an action plan to help them do all the things that they need to do to actually turn that into reality. That's great.
Speaker 0 00:01:14 Cool. Okay. So what we're going to talk about today is how to start that off, how to have a vision about that and how to kind of make that vision a reality. So there's one thing that I want you to start off with, cause you've said it before, when we've chatted off camera, but it is crucial. Most people don't actually know what they want first. They want to create this plan and strategies let's go, but they don't actually take the time to figure it out. So like let's start there and then just work through them.
Speaker 2 00:01:42 Yeah. That's such a great way to set me up. Thank you. Um, so what we do find is that as we get older, when we're kids, we tend to just say whatever it is that we want, right. As we get older and go through more of the socialization process, we start to do what more, what maybe other people expect of us or what society expects for us. And we start to let go of, um, or pay less attention to what it is that we truly desire. That's right. So we find people in kind of like early adulthood or mid adulthood that are feeling like, geez, I'm not actually sure if I feel really happy
Speaker 3 00:02:22 And I don't
Speaker 2 00:02:24 Actually know what it is that I want. Most people are very busy doing lots and lots and lots. And in my opinion, too many things, but they don't, they're not actually tied to, you know, what am I getting out of this other than I've already committed myself to doing all of these things, but what is it that's really going to bring me the most happiness that's right. And sometimes the goals that we said, you know, in the past don't serve us forever. We always have to be going back to the goals that we've set and saying, do I still want to be pursuing this? Have I already achieved it? And what's, and what's next? Yeah.
Speaker 0 00:02:59 It's shocking to me in regards to how many people I sit down with and talk to on this topic in regards to people, see what I do. And they're just, they're always curious. I don't live your traditional Fort McMurray life in regards to, I don't get on the bus in the morning. I don't go to sites. Like I don't work shift. It's not what I do. So people are constantly like curious about what I do and I give them an unknown, explain, like I have a business and this is what my business does. And sometimes I do a podcast and it's a lot of fun and they say, okay, well I don't get it. And then I explained to them, okay, well, these are my goals and this is what I'm trying to achieve. And this is like, this is the end goal. And this is what I do to make it here. They look at me like I'm a Martian in regards to like you sit down and think about like the trajectory of where you want to go. And like, yeah, if you don't plan or know where you're going, then you're just going aimlessly. So I set that goal. And what you just said to figure out, like, not just set a goal of success, but a goal of happiness.
Speaker 2 00:04:00 It's crucial. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. It's so true. It's kind of just like, you know, wandering around like what you're describing, wandering around in the dark with a blindfold on and headphones hoping you'll bump into the thing that is going to make you happy or to give you a feeling of whatever it is that you're looking for. As opposed to actually taking the time to sit down and say, okay, let's get quiet for a few minutes. Let's evaluate, what's working. What's not working. And then get really intentional about what that's next. That's it.
Speaker 0 00:04:33 So once somebody identifies what their goal is, well, before we even talk about identifying what are like, cause there are some common themes I've found over the years, what are some common themes that you found that people would say, okay, this is what's going to make me happy. Do you have a few that are kind of jumped out at you?
Speaker 2 00:04:50 Yeah. I mean, there's some very common ones. I think we talked a little bit about this the last time I was here. Um, it's sort of like the things that society tells us will make us happy. That's right. And in every culture, there's some, there's some, almost like a prescription list, right? Yeah. I mean money is probably the number one, right? It's like, well, if I just have money, I can figure everything else out. Right. Um, weight loss is another really, really interesting one. So we find is that even people who might not necessarily need to lose weight, everyone kind of wants to. Right. And everyone wants to make more money. Yeah. Yeah. Would you agree?
Speaker 0 00:05:21 Have you, oh, a hundred percent. But then when I sit down with them and I really like get to the bottom of it, like when you ask somebody there, because more often than not, that's what they say. I want money and you're like, okay, well how much do you need? And then they're like, well, I don't know. I just want lots. And I'm like, okay, that's cool. And like, I understand why you're working so hard while you're like trying to get all this overtime. But like that's part of the plan as well of like having like a financial plan as well. Like how much money do you really need? Especially like now, currently it's pretty easy to figure out like your basic needs, your mortgage, electricity, frivolous things like TV, alcohol. Um, but like if you could figure out like, okay, where do you want to retire at the end of the day?
Speaker 0 00:06:01 And how much is that going to cost you? Like, what are you going to do in your retirement? You can like pretty much figure out like, listen, you don't need a hundred million dollars to do what you want to do. You only need a million. And so now like your goal is if you can earn a million dollars, then you can live the life that you want to live here, whatever. And I'm making million a million dollars up. But then after I say, okay, like let's eliminate money off of the table. Like, what is it that you actually want to be happy? Then people look at me like I'm a real Martian. And there's just like, I don't know. So you are right. I think the default for most people is like, we want money because we feel that'll make our lives way easier. And to your right in regards to, yeah, you want to be, you don't want to lose weight, healthier, live longer, so on and so forth. Um, but once you eliminate the money off the thing like the, the, the responses I've received are so basic for true. Like what really makes you happy if you eliminate money off the table.
Speaker 2 00:07:05 So I love where I would take it a slightly different approach, but I a hundred percent get what you're getting at. And ultimately what I would say is nobody, nobody has a goal of having money. Great money. Yeah. I mean, sometimes it's like, yeah, I'd like to have a big pile of money, but in real, in reality, you can't play with money. You can't eat it. It's not going to keep you warm at night. Right. Money is the vehicle that's going to get you what you truly want. And so, because we are raised with this narrative, that money is kind of the solve all your problems without getting really, um, going deep and saying, what does that mean? Then people just focus on the money and they don't actually get what they want. That's why, you know, you'll have millionaires. They make their first million we'll next thing is like, well now I just, I'm not happy.
Speaker 2 00:07:52 So I guess I need to make a billion dollars. And then they make a billion dollars. I'm not really happy. I needed must be a trillion dollars because it's never the money. It's the thing that the money is going to give you weight loss is the exact same thing. Yeah. Weight loss is never a goal. The people I struck, the reason why people struggle with weight loss is because again, it's no one cares about losing weight. You care about what that's going to get. You, it's going to get you more acceptance because our society is so focused on people being thin and fit. Right. You know, so you're focused on either socially fitting in. Maybe you have a story about, if I look a different way, I'll be more attractive and I'll be able to find a love partner, right. Or I'll have more confidence. I'll be able to ask for that promotion. But the weight loss it's like when I ask people, well, what's your goal? Well, 20 pounds in this size, it's like, well, that's not your goal. Your goal is what you're going to have after you've done this thing. It's just simply the weight loss, right? The money and money and health, or I find a lot of, um, ties like analogies between the two of them.
Speaker 0 00:08:57 Yeah, yeah. Yeah. They connect a lot and there's like you just said, and you articulated it beautifully. You want this, but there's something behind it. And that's like good coaching in regards to, yeah, you're right. You want weight loss? You want money, but let me tell you why and like what you're gonna achieve afterwards.
Speaker 2 00:09:14 Yeah. Well, I wouldn't say, I would say, I would say please, you tell
Speaker 0 00:09:18 Me why. I don't know for sure. For sure. So after you identify what it is that you want, what's the next step? Well like for when you're going through a process.
Speaker 2 00:09:30 Okay. So I find there's two sort of streams of thought here. So one type of person is like, I know what I want, or I think I know what I want, but I'm struggling to get it. The other person is I literally have no clue. Like kind of like what we talked about. No clue. I know I want something different. I just don't know what it is. Um, so with the person who has an idea, the first thing I always tell them to do is sit down and get yourself in a quiet place and allow yourself to daydream about it, dream about what it's going to be like when you have it, your dream should feel amazing. Right? Right. It's dreaming. Dreaming should always be happy place. Yeah. Yeah. However, this can be a struggle for people because a lot of times when we think about something that we want, that we don't have our brain automatically kicks into, how am I going to get it?
Speaker 2 00:10:22 And I don't know how I'm going to get it. Right. That's right. And a lot of times that's where the door closes and never to be opened again for some people. Yeah. Yeah. So, um, it's really important to practice or our brains are wired to look for the negative and to look for the fear and to look for the unknown, to prepare for that. Right. Because over millions of years, fear and unknown meant danger in depth. Don't live in that way now. But we have to train our brain to practice feeling the happiness and feeling the focusing on the positive. Yeah. Yeah. And so allowing yourself to just take some time and just be like, if I had a fairy godmother and she was just going to come and do it all for me and I would have it and I have to figure it out, what would it feel like? What would it look like? What will be the same as right now? What would be different? Right. What would I be doing? Who would I be with? Yeah. Yeah. And allow your mind to kind of it's. It should be, it should be fun. It should be fine. Yeah.
Speaker 0 00:11:20 Yeah. For the young kids out there, food for thought, this is a great exercise to do. Um, and for the adults who have children and they don't know what they want to do, here's my recommendation. Cause I was put in this situation as a teenager, if you don't know what you want, go do the exact opposite of something you hate doing. So like for me, I was a general laborer for 12 hours a day at site. I won't say the site, but I hated every second of it. And so when you're doing something you don't like for 12 hours, you have time to think of what are the million other things I'd rather be doing right now, other from this. And then at the end of the summer, I had no idea what I want to do at the beginning. I knew I didn't want to be out doing that.
Speaker 0 00:12:09 And so I was like, listen, I got like a hundred things. I don't know which one I did finish. I really want to do, but at least I have some direction in regards to, I know what I don't want anymore if you're young or if you're even older. And you're just like, I don't know what I want. Figuring out something, go be a dishwasher, go like dig, ditches, do something that, you know, you don't like. And within that timeframe, when you're like hating your life, it's a good time to reflect on like, I like this. Let's figure this out quick.
Speaker 2 00:12:36 Yeah. You're setting me up so, well, it's almost like we had, I scripted
Speaker 0 00:12:39 This, which we did. I don't preach. I don't do any lead-up work.
Speaker 2 00:12:44 Two things that I was going to talk about when I like about, you know, tips for people to, if you're, if you're kind of stuck. Um, so the first one would be the daydreaming thing. Yeah. The second is, um, again, wouldn't quite describe it just exactly how you did, but yeah. Same concept. Yeah. So for people who really struggle with like some people can't dream, like people that are the really fault, like to follow the rules and the dreaming has kind of been beaten out of the month when you get to a certain age in life, like people don't really tolerate you talking about your dreams that much anymore.
Speaker 0 00:13:17 It's very sad. Very sad. Unless you go into the greenhouse about dreams all the time.
Speaker 2 00:13:24 Yeah. Yeah. Love it. Yeah. Um, so the second thing is exactly what you said. So it's very easy for people to identify what they don't want. Right. I don't think you need to go out and force yourself to do things. Cause I think at a certain point in your life, you've already accumulated a big laundry list of all the things that I don't like. And we usually spend most of our time dwelling on them, to be honest, which is unfortunate. It is unfortunate. And one of the biggest things that hold people back too. So what I say, if people are struggling with the whole, getting into the daydream state is identify things, start to notice things that are really ticking you off, like really bugging you. Right? And the idea is not to stay focused on it for a long time, but it's a starting point, a launch pad to say, okay, this is what I know I don't want.
Speaker 2 00:14:15 Right. If this was eliminated from my life, what would it look like? And that's not an easy thing to do, identify what, what you don't want, but getting what you do want. So for instance, you have a boss that's micromanaging you all the time and really annoying. You'd say, okay, well, if that boss was gone, what would you replace them with? What would it look like? What would that relationship look like? And then you kind of can start, oh yeah. I can imagine coming to work. And it would be like this, and this is what we'd be talking about. Or I wouldn't even see them the whole day. I'd just be doing my thing. Then you start to kind of create this little by little bits of information that we're building. Yeah.
Speaker 0 00:14:55 Okay. So now we've identified what we want to make us happy. We've identified like the daydreaming component of it. This is the hardest part for most people. And I think where people get intimidated and maybe I'm jumping a step. I'm not sure you tell me if I am, but now it's actually making it practical. I think there's like a lot of self-help books out there that say like, one of them is, it is my favorite. I'm not gonna lie. One of my favorites is a secret. You listened to the secrets and you positive thoughts like attracts, like, and you get what you want. And there's, there's a lot to that. I truly believe that. However, you just can't sit on the couch and like pray for hamburger. And all of a sudden the hamburger materialize, you got to do some work to make that happen in one way, shape or form. So I think most people like listen to a book like that and say like, oh, it's too artsy, fartsy and whatever. And I want like a plan of action on how to do this. But that in itself is intimidating. So how do you put the steps in place to then achieve what your goal?
Speaker 2 00:15:52 Yeah. Amazing. So I want to, before we get to the action step, because you brought up another thing that's really important when people hear about visualization, visualization is something that I work with my clients a lot. It's very, very powerful, very powerful. But a lot of people do think it's kind of like, it's like, that's just like whatever. It's actually very scientific. Okay. Let's hear about this. Yeah. So what happens when you visualize something you're training your brain, uh, to focus on it. So you're, you're engaging, what's called the reticular activating system, which is a part of your brain that filters. So every day, every moment of every day, we are inundated with bits of information. That is way too much for our brain to take in. Right? So we're always, always filtering and we filter our brain is trained to filter based on familiar.
Speaker 2 00:16:41 So we will look for things that we understand we're familiar with. So when we have a dream or a goal that we've never accomplished before we have to start training our brain to make it feel familiar. And so what happens is by visualizing it, whether even you're just closing your eyes and picturing it in your head, or you're watching a movie or you put it on a vision board and you look at the image, I created this product called envision puzzle, which is a little bit of a twist on the vision board. Cool. But it's, you're putting that image in front of your face and what's happening is your brain is starting to pattern pattern. So you will find things. So, but those people that are skeptics, I used to be two until I understood the science of it. That's why it's so powerful.
Speaker 0 00:17:25 Well, you see it, you can taste it. And then you're focused on getting it. And so opportunities to get whatever you wanting prior to you. Might've just like breeze by not thinking about it. But now all of a sudden you're like, oh, look at that. Like that was always there. That opportunity to get what I wanted. I just never saw it. Cause I was so cluttered thinking about other things. Totally.
Speaker 2 00:17:44 And you and I were just talking about that exact same thing that just happened in your life. Right? You had been wanting, you put it out into the universe, chatting with some people, all of a sudden solution right. In your hand. That's exactly it. Yeah. Um, so it's really important for people to put it in front of their face. Even if it's words, even if you don't have the vision yet, remind yourself over and over again, your brain needs that new neural pathway to guess. Yeah. Um, and then to your next point about then what do you need to do? So in my practice, there's four steps. What we're covering right now is the first and the last basically deciding what you want and creating the vision. The last part is now I need an action plan. I need to, I need to do something.
Speaker 2 00:18:22 Just like what you said. Yeah. Um, and so, and I like how you said, this can be really overwhelming for people, right? Especially whether it's a big dream or a small dream, to be quite honest, it depends on what's holding us back from it. That's right. So we need to sit down and just say, okay, well what's everything that I need to do. Like, I'd be like, let's do a brain dump, like brainstorm everything, write it all down, scrap a paper or whatever. But what you want to do is start breaking down those big things that are very, very overwhelming into like bite size pieces, right. Something that you can do every single day of what stops a lot of people is they think, well, there's so much to do. I don't even know where to start, so I'm not going to start. And then a month goes by a year, goes by a lifetime, goes by and you've never done it. That's right. Um, so really breaking it down into bite size pieces is very, very important. And also having somebody to hold you accountable because you tend to be very bad at holding ourselves accountable. Someone that's going to check in.
Speaker 0 00:19:23 There we go. Now, this is awesome. What you just said, cause you, you gave him the, the beginning and he gave him the end. It's a great sales pitch. Cause they're going to want to know what's in the middle, but we're not telling you, we're not telling you what's in the middle. You know how it starts, you know how it ends, but there's a lot of work in the middle. So we're not going to talk about it. What we're going to do is we're going to segue into Tanner segment called the Mac city minute. So Tanner, please hit her up with the Mac city minute
Speaker 4 00:19:48 Question. Number one. What is one thing in life that brings you joy that people might not know about?
Speaker 2 00:19:54 I love to sing. Oh,
Speaker 4 00:19:57 Question number two. What is your favorite way to lift your spirits on a rainy day? Like today?
Speaker 2 00:20:04 I like listening to good music and I love a really good workout.
Speaker 4 00:20:09 Question. Number three. What is one thing anybody could do to help them reach their personal goals?
Speaker 2 00:20:18 I think the daydreaming one would be my favorite one. Yeah. Allow yourself to dream.
Speaker 4 00:20:23 Okay. Question number four. What is your next goal you're trying to achieve?
Speaker 2 00:20:29 Well, I have so many of them. Let me think killing
Speaker 0 00:20:33 With this guy. He just, I know, I know
Speaker 2 00:20:37 He's so dialed in. Um,
Speaker 3 00:20:41 My next school is
Speaker 2 00:20:43 Too well. I've got some, um, uh, courses. I want to create online courses so people can just do the work online.
Speaker 4 00:20:51 And your final question. How does helping people help you in your life?
Speaker 2 00:20:57 It's just in so many levels. You know, when I found coaching, it was like, oh, this is my thing. You know, for so long, I never thought I had a thing. And when I found it, I was like, this is the thing that I'm best at. And that, uh, is I'm able to contribute to others too. So it's just nothing but blessings
Speaker 4 00:21:20 Three question standard
Speaker 0 00:21:21 Always, always impressed me. Like it's, it's a shame that the camera's always on the guest when they're asking the questions. Cause I'm always thinking like my head for the people at home, if the camera's on me right now, which I know it is, it's always like, I'm like, wow, where is this coming from? Like tell you don't have to go to the park with those questions, man. Thank you. So, uh, what kind of music do you like listening to?
Speaker 2 00:21:43 Big country music fan country.
Speaker 0 00:21:45 Okay. We talk in new country, old country. Uh, I'd say like
Speaker 2 00:21:49 Nineties and later, like, okay. So
Speaker 0 00:21:52 You're like, should I Twain
Speaker 2 00:21:55 Alicia, Toby or not? Okay. Toby he's a little uh, yeah. Um, Alan Jackson, Alan Jackson.
Speaker 0 00:22:02 He sings that song a way down under, by the, is that the guy way down under by that Chad and Gucci? Yeah. That's a, I don't know country, man, but I know that one. My next review. So listen now. And I'm like, this is a banger. Yeah. So that's a, that's a toe Tapper. Okay. So country music. And is that like your jam? Is that like it's, you're only a country girl or you listen to other stuff
Speaker 2 00:22:23 And other things for sure. But that's how I always gravitate towards the country.
Speaker 0 00:22:27 Cool. And now in regards to exercise, you said you liked to exercise Tanner's questions. Just get my brain phone. What's your favorite type of exercise? I love
Speaker 2 00:22:36 Weightlifting weightlifting. I started weightlifting when I was never into sports as a kid. I always like the little kid. No, I was always picked last. When I was about 18. I started, my stepfather had like this weight lifting thing in his, in the basement that we lived in. I started doing it. I just fell in love with it. I love to bike. I love to cycle too. Okay. Weightlifting.
Speaker 0 00:23:00 That's interesting. I was not expecting that. Oh really? Yeah. Never judge a book by their cover all. Yeah, I've
Speaker 2 00:23:05 Done a couple of weightlifting competitions actually. Really? Yeah. I mean not, you know, like there's lots of different categories. That's right. Yeah. That's right. Love it. Love it. I would never do cardio. I mean, that's my thing. I love cardio. Yeah. Gives you a great high, right?
Speaker 0 00:23:18 Amazing. Oh, that's it. And for me, like it's a form of meditation for me. Cause I just zone out and focus on like one foot ahead of the other. You're just, you're just running and running is like the best drag. Yeah. It really is. I love it. I run at least minimum three to four times a week on a good, there, there are some weeks that I put seven, seven good runs in. So good for you.
Speaker 2 00:23:42 I used to be a runner. My knees kind of don't support it anymore. Fortunately, but yeah, that happens. It's a loss. Yeah.
Speaker 0 00:23:49 Yeah. So this has been a great episode. Thank you for switching up our format a little bit. I think it was super informative. Oh, I loved it. Thanks. So definitely you'll come back again. You have lot. I think there were so many topics that you said I could have picked from there was like nine. So we just picked one and I think it was really beneficial for anybody looking at home. So thank you for that. So we're at the part of the show where we're wrapping up, but this is your opportunity for a shameless plug. So please tell everybody at home once again, who you are, how they can get in contact with you and support your business.
Speaker 2 00:24:20 Perfect. Yeah. Thank you. Thank you both you guys again. So always a pleasure. So my name's Sherry MacCachren. I am the owner of joyful roots coaching. You can find my
[email protected] uh, or my Facebook page is, um, joyful success coaching.
Speaker 0 00:24:37 There we go. Awesome. Well Fort McMurray, wood, Buffalo, uh, thanks so much for tuning in. It truly does mean the world to me. I know you could be doing so many other things with your time. So like, uh, it's kind of routine of me saying it, but I truly do mean it. Like I am grateful for everybody that tunes in and watches either the videos or the clips and sends comments. Like it's kinda mind blowing to me. So thank you very much. Uh, hopefully you're having a great day and uh, we'll see you tomorrow. Peace.
Speaker 1 00:25:07 <inaudible> talk about quenching your ugly thirst.
